Comments on: A Few Words On Narcissism

By: Susan Simko

Susan Simko — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 21:38:55 +0000

I’ve found the best revenge is to completely wipe them out of your life. Don’t talk to them and don’t talk about them with other people. Completely ignore them. Pretend ass if they don’t exist.

Just like trying to break a child of bad behaviour, the narcissist is going to get loud, noisy and irritating for a while trying to provoke you. Don’t give in. Eventually s/he will go away.

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 19:43:16 +0000

I’d never heard of malignant narcissism until the latest Rush album came out (Snakes & Arrows) last year. It’s an instrumental, but from reading your post and the Wikipedia entry (that mentions Rush – best band in the world!!) the song sounds like it fits. A good name for people who not only don’t care about your boundaries, but who go out of their way to breach them. Your advice to not play their game sounds good.

By: minervasowl

minervasowl — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 01:35:05 +0000

I’d say that your advice is spot on, with the possible addition that looking good is the best revenge, which is probably a close corollary to what you have said.

I read the wikipedia entry, and I have to say that I didn’t find it terribly enlightening, but knowing what malignant means and knowing what a narcissist is, I can’t help thinking that malignant narcissist is a fancier, more technical phrase for, well, jerk. Or perhaps insidious jerk.

An oversimplification, perhaps, but what I am really getting at is that you don’t have to fall prey to someone quite as treacherous as a malignant narcissist to be left feeling blindsided or unprepared. Your advice applies to dealing with anyone who makes a practiced effort to appear to be something other than what he or she seems.

People sneak up on you. It’s okay. Get up. Get out. Put yourself back together, better than ever, and move onward and upward.

Nicely put.