Comments on: Weight, Food; Cocoon, Flight

By: Shannon

Shannon — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 18:32:18 +0000

Reading this post made me smile. Cocoons have a purpose but I am glad that you are spreading your wings! Yeah!

By: chelle

chelle — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 04:50:13 +0000

When I lost weight to deal with the constantly changing sizes I shopped at Goodwill (thrift store). I do not know about you guys but I just couldn’t afford new clothing every four months or so.

Be proud of yourself–do not worry about what motivated you. The fact is that you are doing it!! You had a vision and you are making that vision become a reality. Be proud of your healthy life changes.

BTW it has been two years and I still have not found that emotional substitute that food brought. It is amazing what power it can have over us isn’t it?

By: Amanda M.

Amanda M. — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 00:31:46 +0000

Thanks for the post. Excellent. I’ve yo-yo’d with my weight for years, most of my life really and I’m always sucessful for awhile and then it falls apart. I realized the last time around it was due to internal/past/childhood issues and I’ve yet to really face them. Yes, I’m weak and still ignoring them. So thanks for posting that it is possible to over come those issues and that the fat is a way to hide. So many people (myself included) miss that very important fact.

Congrats on all your sucess that is just wonderful!

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How to Be a Healthy Writer « Jen’s Writing Journey — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 17:52:48 +0000

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By: Angela

Angela — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:14:18 +0000

Thanks for the advice about honesty and writing. You are very wise! I have always noticed that a certain honesty and sincerity is what really draws me into the writing of others, but it just never occurred to me that it might work the other way around too

By: FD

FD — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 14:36:57 +0000

“I wish I was a bigger person and didn’t need that for motivation. ”

Bollocks to that. It’s not revenge, it’s triumph over the odds, and you have every right to enjoy it, to revel in it; you’ve earned it after all, painfully.

I loathe the ‘to be a truly actualized person you have to forgive and forget’ message. Yeah, understanding helps and knowing ‘they’ had triggers and damages of their own, gives valuable distance and perspective, but that’s very distinct from the victim mentality of forgiving, and forgetting.
I mean, come on, if you truly forgive, you are saying there are no completely unacceptable behaviours, and if you truly forget, you’d put yourself in the position of potential damage again.
I prefer accept and assimilate. Accept it occurred and any damage caused, and assimilate it and use it as a learning curve and to become a stronger person.

I consider it one of the more damaging hangovers from Christian martyrdom – the pie in the sky by and by will make up for starving to death here and now, used as justification of earthly harms – because they will make you a ‘better person’. Feh.

By: writtenwyrdd

writtenwyrdd — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 09:53:00 +0000

Wow, hurray for you for losing so much over the past year! That is very hard work–especially in mental adjustments!

I wasn’t fat until I was an adult. It’s partly a metabolic problem, but I can’t lose weight and am going for bariatric surgery later this year. I’m working really hard at making lifestyle changes pre surgery,and while I’m still not losing weight (despite dieting and exercise) I feel better. I can’t wait to be thinner. I’d be happy in a 14, but I’m going to shoot for a 12.

By: Laurel

Laurel — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 05:34:44 +0000

*hugcomfort*

Sounded like you could do with one. That’s all.

By: Mardel

Mardel — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:31:08 +0000

I totally hear you on a size 14 – I’d love to be a size fourteen again, I’d even love to be a 16. Due to medication and a few other factors (like an exercise hate-on, and body pain) I got to where an 18 was tight on me. Luckily for me (but not for the pain) I refused to take one of the medicines that I’ve been taking for two years. Within 2 months of quitting I actually lost 13 pounds. Without doing anything different but not taking a certain med (Lyrica). So now I’m close to a 16, but now I should probably work at it so it stays off.

Congratulations on shedding the weight and other issues. I had a rough mom (though who didn’t in the 60′s and 70′s, parents were tough then), who wouldn’t hesitate to smack us with whatever was handy. But she never punched us, so I’m grateful for that (does that sound sick?).

Anyway, good luck on everything – and I’m glad you’re writing a young adult series. I was one of the lucky ones who received an ARC. I loved it and recommended that my boss Librarian (who works in a highschool) buy it for the library where she works. I’ve also been recommending Strange Angels to everyone I talk to about books.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:03:56 +0000

As someone whose weight used to hover over the 300 pound mark, size 16 is like my Holy Grail. So WOOT! That’s awesome!

I really have to applaud you for embracing moderation. Most people are either ON or OFF, restricting or binging, exercising to the extreme or not at all and it sounds like you have a good handle on the middle ground. I’m convinced that’s the key to both happiness and health. Congrats!