Do Better

Dear Superheroes:

Sexual harassment isn’t an occupational hazard. It’s not a glitch in the complex matrix of modern life. It’s not something that just “happens.” It’s something men do. It’s a choice men make. It’s a problem men enable. It’s sometimes a crime men commit. And it is not in the power nor the responsibility of women to wage war on this crime.

It’s on us.

How do we fight this war? We stop enabling. We check ourselves and, when necessary, wreck ourselves. Do you know a guy who’s hate-following women on Twitter just to troll them? You check him. Do you know a guy who’s writing disgusting screeds to women journalists because they don’t like the same things he likes? You check him. Do you know a professional whose discourse with women in his field is loaded with gender-specific language and condescension that could enable further abuse? You check him. Are your Twitter followers identifying you as a sympathetic ear for their sexist views? You check yourself. Is your website’s message board a cesspool of ignorance and hate? You check it like you actually give a damn. Do you know a guy who’s sending rape threats to women for any reason? Oh, you report that guy.

Let me make it plain:

A woman objecting to the content of a comic book — even if you think she’s dead wrong — does not rise to the occasion of vicious name calling and rape threats. —Fake Geek Guys: A Message to Men About Sexual Harassment

Thank you.

4 Replies to “Do Better”

  1. I am sorry but I find that I can not stand by without interjecting on this occasion while I don’t find anything wrong in your declaration gender equality and ending sexual harassment is not a female only goal and any bias towards one or the other hurts the efforts of both in the long run belittle me if you feel you must this is where I Stand and draw my line in the sand

  2. …I don’t even understand what you’re saying here.

    If you mean to say that somehow this call to action is unfair to men (which is all I can translate out of this) I would invite you to rethink. The fact remains that the overwhelming majority of gender inequality is a weight upon women, and the overwhelming majority of acts of sexual violence, domestic violence, and harassment are committed by men. The instant that reaches parity–the instant that women harass men systematically 50% of the time, let’s say, or the instant gender inequality isn’t overwhelmingly directed at women–this argument may become applicable. But for right now, it simply serves as a strawman and a deflection, and neither are useful here.

  3. So I sat here staring at the screen for over an hour trying to formulate my response and failed so please accept my apologies it was never my intention to cause such a misunderstaning

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